what should i do if i have money with me, but my friend doesn’t?
whenever i go out with my friend i always have money to go out with and she never has money, i always think we could do things that don’t involve money but she always complains that there’s nothing to do without money. before you say pay for her, no i won’t pay for her, because i don’t have money coming out of my **** to pay for her each time we go out.
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Avoid making your friend feel sorry for not having money .
Simply stop carrying money when you are with her. If she stops hanging out with you, then that should tell you something.
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She could be using you. It is a cheek to say to a person that you do not want to do anything unless it is paid for if the person is not willing to pay her half.
Mix with other people and make new friends.
She's mooching off of you, and she knows it, because it's easy.
Just ask her, are you my real friend?
Why do you like spending time with me?
If I don't spend money, am I still your friend?
Then say,,Because if your my real friend, spending time with me should be more important than spending money, right?
Then tell her you can't keep paying for everything, its not fare and if she was your real friend she would understand that and find other things to do......
Do not go anywhere with her, that requires money
I wouldn't pay for someone else all the time either, and in fact, it wouldn't be very often, if ever.
If this friend of yours never has money i'm sure you have other friends you can do things with who do happen to have money
Do NOT pay for her. Encourage her to get a job. There are tons of things to do that don’t need money. You could go to a lake or river, go hiking, go have a picnic, go biking... the possibilities are endless.
Guess you answered your own question. If you don't want her company then stop going anywhere with her. I can remember a time when I was broke and my friends always persuaded me to come out anyway. I do the same for any of my friends in the same situation.
Early in the visit, ask "Want to do something? How much money can you spend?" When the answer is "Zero," respond with "Then I guess we're not doing anything unless you can think of something to do that doesn't take any money." And don't do anything that involves money. Don't do anything period unless she's going to pay her own way.
As long as you keep paying her way, she's going to keep coming around hoping to have a good time at YOUR expense. When you stop spending $$$ on her then either she starts coming up with her own money, she coming up with ideas for things to do that don't involve money, or she quits coming around. Either of 3 outcomes leave you better off than you are now, a cash cow for Ms. Opportunist.
Try having her over at your house or inviting her out for a bbq or picnic sometimes.